Dear Deb,   

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. When things go wrong he never wants to talk about it to fix it. He says "I don't want to argue, drop it". He also says things to hurt me, but yet he says he really loves me. I don't know if he is telling me the truth, that he really loves me, or what? I want him to reach out to me. He acts like nothing ever bothers him, where we are concerned, especially when we argue. I guess I love him so much that I'm confused. Please help. 

Some people have a harder time communicating than others and will do anything they can to avoid confrontation. Women generally want to "fix things" and make everything nice. I know it can be frustrating at times, when you want to work things out and your partner just wants you to change the subject. 
When it comes to men ... actions speak louder than words. Watch his actions and don't be as concerned about what he says. When you do talk about the relationship, try to use your words carefully. You'll have better communication if you say something like "When you do (say) ______________, it makes me feel (think you mean) ______________. 

-Deb

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