Q. I've been involved in a whirlwind romance for about five weeks with a cool girl I really have fallen for. She's said she's never felt this close to anyone before and as a result has been revealing some of her "deep dark secrets", opening up to me with intimate disclosure. Well, it turns out that she has had quite a promiscuous sexual past, and it's beginning to freak me out. She has caught on to this and told me that if it changes the way I feel about her then she would just rather cut her losses now. I care deeply about her but can help being hung up on her past. Don't get me wrong, I'm certainly no angel myself but I do hold sex in a sincere regard and usually reserve it for women I make a connection with, not just a party activity to gratify the senses. Maybe I'm a victim of society's "If guys get around, they're studs, if chicks do, they're sluts" mentality. But I'm struggling with whether I'm dating a sexually vigorous modern woman or a tramp with maybe some self-esteem issues or something. Please advise. A.
I wonder why she told you about her past? Do you think she thought you wanted
to hear about her wild past? Lots of women think that guys
will find them more desirable if they are "experienced". Well, in
any event, you have to decide what you want from this relationship and take
it from there. If you think she is a good person and it would be worthwhile to
get to know her better, then do it. You might want to take inventory of your
issues and concerns and ask her some key questions so you can get a feel for
how she thinks now. What does she consider acceptable dating behavior now? Her
answers should give you some insight on what type of person you are
dating.
If
anyone out there has something to say on this subject?
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