Dear Deb,
 My boyfriend and I have been together for 20 months -- he's 20 and I'm 22. We met as roommates, and only recently (2 months ago) began living apart. We are truly committed to one another, and have an amazingly open level of communication, in addition to a great sex life.  Recently, however, he's been bothered by the fact that other women turn him on.  Not women he knows, just random ones on the street.  He feels really guilty about this and wonders if it means he's not happy with me.  But he feels that he is happy, it's just that he sees our relationship as potentially never-ending, and so wonders about all of the experience he's missing as a single, college guy (we began going out within two months of his arrival at college).  What we want to know is, is this normal?  Is it okay for a man to be sexually turned
on by other women, so long as he doesn't do anything about it?  Or does it mean he doesn't want to be with me?  Even he has said that, after a few flings or so, he'd
want me back again, because I'm the girl he's in love with.  Please help us, we're committed to working this thing out.
Thank you! 

Yes, it is normal for your boyfriend to get turned on by other women. It's normal for most guys ... even married ones. They could be married to a supermodel and still get turned on by other women. It has nothing to do with you and it doesn't mean he loves or desires you any less. He may be right in thinking that after a few flings he'd be back to you, but that is a dangerous game to play and I don't recommend it. The fact that you are committed to working this out, proves that you have a very good relationship too. If you keep that commitment you'll do fine. 
Deb

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