Dear Deb,
The woman I am in a relationship with now is divorced and has one child.  Getting married again and having more children does not seem to be in her plans.  These are two things that I want more than anything.  I love her and I feel her growing closer to me.  Am I wasting my time or is there a chance that these things may change?  I understand her wounds and scars may still be fresh and I have been very understanding and treated her like a princess.  She says she has never felt the way she does with me.  But, is this all I am going to get or is this just a natural process she is going through?  What would be my best plan of action? Thanks.

I don't know how long you have been in this relationship or how well you know her ... but, I'd say it's possible for her feelings to change. Be careful though, I think I detect something else here ... perhaps you are more in "love with love" and the concept of marriage and family, than you are with her. That sort of thing can cloud your decision making abilities.

My advice to you is to give it some time and really get to know each other. Be honest and upfront in the fact that you want to get married and have a family in the future and yet understanding that this may not be her top priority right now. 

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