Dear Deb,

I used to date and hangout with this woman last year and I thought we clicked, but later on I found out about her true personality, which was weirdness and being bossy. I stopped liking her.  My friends met her and even told me that she didn't even look that good.  So, I stopped calling and hanging out with her ... but, she tried to still establish contact by emailing and calling me.  I was glad that I didn't have to talk to her anymore  and then I found that she is in two of my classes at school. She still wants to talk and still sits next to me.  It feels awkward and I detest it.  I was thinking of
dropping and changing class sections, but there is only one section, since I go to a small college.  Now, I don't know what to do.  I need some advice. Thanks for your help.

My guess it that you never really told her that you didn't want to see her anymore and she is left with the possibility that you still may like her. You should have a talk with her and set the record straight. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.  Talk to her at a good time when you won't get too many interruptions. Keep in mind that you had a relationship with this woman, so be nice, sincere and take her feelings into consideration.  You may want to apologize to her for not being straight with her before, tell her that you have a hard time breaking up with girls, and ask for her understanding. I don't think she'll really want to talk to you as much or sit next to you anymore ... but if she does, just tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask her to respect your wishes and not sit next to you. This is a case where honesty is the best policy and a reminder that you can't just ignore things and expect the "problem" to go away.
-Deb

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