Dear Deb,
I met a guy through the internet, we talked for months and then he came to visit me and we had the time of our lives.  Now he is back in his hometown. We talk fairly regularly, but I don't know how to find out if he wants to think of me in his life in "that way". I know he cares for me, and I know I mean a lot to him. Basically ... it's just a matter of "can we do this long distance thing?" I don't want to bring it up to him, in case I am reading him completely wrong. Also, he told me before he came that he is still in love with a girl from his past and I respected his honesty.  Since then, he has spoken with her and she does NOT feel the same.  This is all he has told me.  I know he was confused by the both of us in his life, but now, I know she doesn't feel the
way he does. Do I just give him time ... wait and see? I feel like I can't move on until I know how he feels, and yet, I don't want to say the wrong thing. Please Help.

You seem to have found a nice guy that is being very
honest with you.  You are handling this all very well and giving him time and waiting to see how things develop is the best thing that you can do.  He is going to need some time dealing with his mixed emotions...this includes the fact that the person he loves does not feel the same way toward him and the fact that he feels very strongly toward you.  He seems like the kind of guy that will want to be fair to you during this time of healing for him.  Enjoy your time together both online and in person when you get that chance.  The relationship will develop from there and with the wonderful honest relationship that you two have started with, it has a great start...:)  Take it slow and enjoy!

Deb2

  
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