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In response to this letter.

Deb, I thought the answer to the guy who hasn't been able to get sex from his wife in six months could only have been written by a woman. When a wife begins playing games with a man's head (both of them), the man must realize that in other countries you would be legally entitled to pop her upside the head. If Catholic, the padre would tell her to "do your duty." The man must put his foot down immediately because only the man can dominate the relationship. In this man's case, he waited too long. I would immediately begin hiding assets and file for divorce. You can always find someone else. Easily. Signed, Strawberri

Dear Strawberri:

I believe in free speech and I'm happy to see people voice their opinion AND I disagree with you. There are two sides to every story and both parties have some responsibility in the matter. The way you paint the picture, the wife is playing head games (and I'm less than pleased with your solution to that as well). What about the wife who puts in a full days work (because her husband can't support the family on his wages alone) and then comes home to a house and family to take care of. There are loads of woman who fit this bill. Woman that are disgusted that their husbands don't lift a finger to help with the cooking, the cleaning or child rearing. What about the husband who goes to the bar after work to socialize while his wife is busy slaving away at home. Many woman are just too damn tired at the end of the day. Others have just plain old lost respect for their husbands. Respect is key in a relationship, how can one desire someone that they don't even respect. And even if she was withholding sex to manipulate her husband, a pop upside the head is never the solution. The answer would be to get to the crux of the problem -- COMMUNICATION! Counseling may be needed as well. Hiding your assets and running away from the problem (filing for divorce) will probably have you come face to face with the "problem" once more. 

Deb

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